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To Report or Not to Report?

A Survivor’s Perspective on Gender-Based Violence in the Faith Sector

By Gil Harper

Introduction

Gender-based violence (GBV) remains a pervasive issue, with many survivors facing complex decisions about whether to report their experiences. In this blog, we delve into the perspectives of a survivor and leader within the Phephisa Survivors Network, exploring the challenges survivors encounter, particularly within the faith sector. Through her insights, we gain a deeper understanding of why reporting GBV incidents, especially within religious contexts, can be fraught with obstacles.

Understanding Survivor Hesitancy

Survivors of GBV often face significant barriers to reporting their experiences. According to our interviewee, survivors may hesitate to report incidents, especially when the perpetrator is known to them. This reluctance stems from a myriad of factors, including feelings of self-blame, disbelief, and fear of betrayal. For many survivors, grappling with the complexities of their relationship with the perpetrator can delay or deter them from seeking support or taking legal action.

Challenges in the Faith Sector

The dynamics of GBV within religious communities present unique challenges for survivors. In the context of the church, faith leaders wield significant power, complicating efforts to seek redress or support. Perpetrators often exploit this power dynamic, manipulating survivors into silence or minimising the severity of their experiences. Additionally, the patriarchal nature of many religious institutions further marginalises survivors, making it difficult to challenge entrenched systems of abuse and control.

Navigating Support Systems

Despite the obstacles they face, survivors like our interviewee are working tirelessly to challenge the status quo and support fellow survivors. Through partnerships with organisations like We Will Speak Out SA and involvement in the Faith Action to End GBV Collective, survivors are amplifying their voices and advocating for systemic change. By engaging faith leaders and communities in dialogue and accountability measures, survivors are striving to create safer, more supportive environments for all.

Empowering Survivors

As we reflect on the insights shared by our interviewee, it becomes clear that empowering survivors requires a multifaceted approach. By addressing the structural inequalities and power imbalances within religious institutions, we can create spaces where survivors feel safe to come forward and seek justice. Through ongoing advocacy, education, and support initiatives, we can work towards a future where GBV is no longer tolerated, and survivors are met with compassion, belief, and action.

Tips for survivors considering reporting GBV incidents within the faith sector:

  • Assess your safety: Before making any decisions, prioritise your safety and well-being. If you feel unsafe or threatened, seek support from trusted friends, family, or community members.
  • Seek confidential support: Reach out to confidential support services, such as helplines or advocacy organisations, to discuss your options and receive guidance without fear of judgement or disclosure.
  • Document your experiences: Keep a record of any incidents of GBV, including dates, times, and details of what occurred. This documentation can serve as valuable evidence if you choose to report the incident.
  • Know your rights: Familiarise yourself with your legal rights and options for reporting GBV within your religious community. Research the policies and procedures in place for addressing such incidents and consider seeking legal advice if needed.
  • Consider your support network: Identify individuals within your faith community who are supportive and trustworthy, such as faith leaders or fellow congregants, who can provide emotional support and assistance throughout the reporting process.
  • Prepare for potential challenges: Understand that reporting GBV within the faith sector may come with unique challenges, including disbelief, victim-blaming, or retaliation. Take steps to emotionally prepare yourself for these potential obstacles.
  • Explore reporting options: Consider reporting the incident to both religious authorities and civil authorities, depending on your comfort level and the severity of the situation. Explore the available reporting mechanisms and choose the option that feels safest and most empowering for you.
  • Advocate for change: If you encounter barriers or inadequate responses when reporting GBV within your faith community, consider advocating for policy changes or accountability measures to improve the support available to survivors.
  • Take care of yourself: Remember to prioritise self-care and seek professional support, such as counselling or therapy, to process your experiences and navigate the emotional impact of reporting GBV.
  • Trust your instincts: Ultimately, trust your instincts and make decisions that feel right for you. You are not alone, and there are resources and support available to help you through this challenging process.

In conclusion, the decision to report GBV incidents within the faith sector is deeply personal and fraught with complexities. Survivors face numerous barriers, including fear, stigma, and power imbalances, which can deter them from seeking support or pursuing justice. However, through the courage and resilience of survivors like those within the Phephisa Survivors Network, progress is being made to challenge the status quo and advocate for change.

By amplifying survivor voices, engaging faith leaders in dialogue, and promoting accountability measures, we can create safer, more supportive environments within religious communities. It is essential for faith leaders, congregants, and society as a whole to listen, believe, and support survivors as they navigate the difficult journey towards healing and justice. Together, we can work towards a future where GBV is no longer tolerated, and all survivors are met with compassion, understanding, and respect.

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